A girlfriend, whose son has also been receiving ABA from the same vendor, and who has also decided to stop receiving the service at the end of this month, told me some heartening info this morning.
Let me back up…the tutor who fired Nik is also my girlfriend’s son’s tutor. Apparently her son is not quite as much of a handful as mine, so she didn’t fire him! In one of life’s funny coincidences, this tutor also shadows a client (a little boy with autism) at Nik’s preschool. The school that Nik just started going to on June 2. I ran into her at drop-off one morning and was a little taken aback to see her, and then remembered that my friend had mentioned this to me.
Anyway, the tutor told my friend today that she was so impressed with Nik, and that he was so obedient and did everything the teachers asked of him and that she was amazed. My friend just nodded and agreed. The tutor’s supervisor, who was present at this conversation said, “Well, that’s typical, they are always different when the parents aren’t around.” My friend just smiled.
Really? They perform well for the teachers and not the parents? I’ve heard that about neurotypical kids, but definitely not about autistic children! If that were the case, why would we have aides shadowing them around the classroom, and why would we need special ed classes, etc.? Hmmm. I’m not saying that Nik is neurotypical, but to dismiss his compliance (one of their annoying words) in school as nothing much…makes my blood boil.
Sour grapes, much?